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Amelia lost her firefighter husband at 27. Years later, she learned his job may have killed him.
Seven years ago, Amelia Maria became a widow at the age of 27. Amelia and her one-year-old son Dennis lost husband and father Mike Maria to acute leukaemia. The 26-year-old had been a Deputy Captain with Queanbeyan City Fire Brigade. When Mamamia caught up with Amelia, she was recovering from a 16-hour shift in rural NSW, fighting fires in conditions the state has never…
Firefighters are using nappies for extra protection from smoke
The longest Jane* hasn’t seen her husband or 10-year-old son for is seven days. And it’s not because she’s been away on a business trip or holidaying with the girls. In fact, it’s quite the opposite – she’s been a dedicated volunteer firefighter for eight years since her boy was just a toddler. When Kidspot caught up with her she had just come off a 14-hour…
The terrifying syndrome sweeping through Australian schools
There is a mysterious plague hitting children across Australia and I’m seeing it everywhere. Kids are melting down in droves and hurling shade at everyone in their path. Parents are pulling out their hair in despair, pleading “what happened?!” The answer is nothing, and the explanation is simple. Once you realise what is behind this sudden influx of Master or Miss Hyde, you…
Meet the women saving babies and kids from the most horrific trauma
Harry and Meghan only follow 15 charities – and these are the incredible women behind one of them.
Pearls of wisdom from the experts
I will never live down trying to create an immediate feeding and bedtime routine of 7 pm with my first baby straight out of the hospital. We would rock, pat, shush and pull our hair out stressing and taking turns trying to settle him through the unexplained ‘purple crying period’ in his bassinet in a completely dark and quiet room…
If you could tell your dad anything, what would it be?
The heartbreaking home truth I discovered while using the viral Face App
I’m on holidays without WIFI and access to streaming TV, so it’s given me a lot of time to think and reflect. It’s also given me ample time in the evening to play with #FaceApp (slightly creepily ageing myself and everyone I have a photo of) and I think I know why this global viral trend has exploded and everyone…
“No, I’m not on a diet.” Last night, I realised I have a problem with food.
I went to an “emotional eating” course last night. Even typing it I feel ashamed. Like I am admitting I have a problem with food. Before last night I would have told you I don’t have a problem with food and mostly meant it. Even though my size has never been constant. I break in and out of fads more often…
The breakthrough as a parent I didn’t realise I needed
Something I’ve learnt to appreciate later in life is the extra people you gain when your parent’s relationship breaks down. One of the first people I turn to in a crisis or when I need advice is my step mum Katie. She also happens to be an Archetypal Therapist which really comes in handy. Something I didn’t know before meeting…
The thing I have in common with Madonna is something you might recognise
As I was watching Madonna last night on Andrew Denton’s Interview, I was thinking that she has to be the only person on the planet who can somehow pull off a benign pirate eye patch. I was blown away by how cool and effortlessly confident, stylish and chic she is, sipping a glass of champagne throughout (I think this is how I would insist…
Why Toffee, the dating app just for private school alumni, is my idea of hell
I went to a private school, and I still think the new dating app for private school-educated alumni, “Toffee”, is the most elite, awful wank fest that has ever landed in Australia.
The flu-fighting soup my fussy toddler can’t get enough of
About the same time every year, I start getting the winter blues. The illnesses drive me up the bend, one illness after another, it’s grim. Yesterday I decided we all needed a big hit of Baba’s soup. Baba is my Croatian grandma, she is the best cook on the planet and has made this soup for us since we were…
15 Years Ago My Friend Asked For My Help With A Violent Ex. I Failed Her
I started thinking about this again recently because I finally got around to experiencing the global sensation podcast series that is The Teacher’s Pet.
This mum’s baby might wear a brace but she doesn’t want your sympathy
I spent a week with a baby who wears a brace for hip dysplasia, and I’ve come to the conclusion that we aren’t giving some babies, or more importantly their parents, the reaction they deserve…
Leaving Neverland opened my eyes in a way I did not expect
I, along with the rest of the world, have been reeling since hearing graphic details of the alleged assaults of Wade Robson and James Safechuck by Michael Jackson.
It’s International Women’s Day and Australia, we have a problem.
On this most significant and important day, International Women’s Day, I have a request of us all to make a pledge moving forward. It won’t change the gender pay gap, it won’t overrule the patriarchy but my god it’s at least a step in the right direction and that is: please stop shaming women’s bodies.
What Reading All This Meghan/Kate Gossip Says About You
“I’ve been a bad feminist lately and I know I’m not the only one guilty of it.”
The thing you should never say to a mum of only boys
Recently an older woman I had never met before reduced me to tears…
What you need to know about sex for the first time after birth, from a mum who has been there.
There are a couple of magic ingredients you need to be able to have sex after birth and beyond…
Why being fat-shamed by strangers shook me to the core
I was “fat shamed” twice in two weeks by young men on the street.
Why a porn addiction should be a deal-breaker in a relationship
The internet decided to crucify another young woman and burn her at the stake last week. Her crime? Calling off her wedding because she found out her fiancé had a porn addiction, that – and she’s a Mormon.
Why it’s time for old school Disney princesses to retire
I think it’s time to retire the old school alumni princesses of yesteryear. Yep you heard right I think it’s time to exit stage left ladies.
Let’s say your kids pet died, would you replace it?
I lied to my kids the other day and it backfired…badly…
OPINION: Why so many men lose the plot when a baby comes
There is a truth universally known to most of us who have bred with a bloke: they tend to lose the plot completely when a baby comes. There is no exact tipping point it can creep up slowly, innocently enough and before you know it they are full blown Kanye on a good day.
A step-by-step guide to first time sex after a vaginal delivery
Annaliese Dent reveals how the most dreaded part of the 6-week after birth checkup is the doctor giving you the green light to have sex again….
When I found out I was having another boy I cried for two weeks
Gender grief. It’s taboo. Frowned upon. Women are made to feel like they aren’t allowed to feel it because it’s ungrateful, selfish even. It’s unfair to those of us who can’t conceive or don’t get to have healthy babies or those of us who have lost babies.
The surprising thing my husband thinks when we have sex
We’ve all done it, for lack of a better term “lie back and think of the Queen”. I’ve always thought that at times, it’s a nice thing to do for a bloke when you don’t really feel like having sex but you know they really want to and it’s been a while “between drinks”. So you do it. But apparently, it’s actually…
‘I won’t be telling my boys not to rape, because words alone aren’t enough’
I’ve heard and read the statement in my feeds a lot in the last few days “we need to teach our sons not to rape and kill women”.
I’m so sick of competitive birthers
Birth, by definition, is “the emergence of a baby or other young from the body of its mother; the start of life as a physically separate being.” Its funny isn’t it that by definition it is simply an “emergence” yet for so many of us how those little critters leave our body can seem to define us.
Making it work when it seems easier to walk away
A year ago if you told me I would still be married to my husband I would have said FAT CHANCE! There was no big betrayal, no dramatic catastrophic event. We just slowly started to decay and it’s so easy to do especially after you breed with someone.
Do We Really Lose Our Identity When We Have Kids?
I read a public display of affection tribute on Facebook from a husband the other week with some genuinely lovely things to say about his wife, who happens to also be a mum and doesn’t work outside the home…
‘I lied to my GP about my boozing’
Annaliese Dent lied to her doctor about how much she was drinking. But is a glass or three of wine to get through the evening with kids really that bad?
Radio host Annaliese Dent’s candid parenting confession
The mother of two boys talks about the differences between parenting the first child and subsequent children.
Is home where the heart is? Or is it wherever you land?
We’re all in such a rush to leave home when we’re young, we don’t realise that one day we’ll be wishing we were back.
When old baby clothes force you to face a difficult question…
The other night I went through the draining ordeal of sorting through all the outgrown baby clothes from my two boys…
‘The most reckless thing I’ve done as a mother’
Yesterday on my radio show I revealed an embarrassing admission: I had been experiencing pain in my left breast on and off for the last six months and more recently discharge. I have had my head firmly planted and buried deep in the sand of work and mothering and took six months to do anything about it. Yep, six.